what is love? what is true love? can love
last forever? these are the questions that have always come into my mind. sometimes
i am certain that i know the answer but at the same time l am pretty sure l
know nothing about it.
finding the one you love most is never easy
for me. finding the one you are attracted, adore can be easy and there are
quite a few in my life. However finding the adorable one you love first and be
together with her never happens to me.
to me, finding the one you like more than
he or she likes you is the start of true love. you do all sorts of stupid
things, irrational decision for example, you know there is absolutely no way
you can be together with her based on everything including she has a bf, long
distance, financial problem, not meeting at the right time etc etc.
you still hope things will turn out what
you expect. you know even though there is little chance you can be together
with her, you can only visualise the scene in your dream. if you know you may
have a little chance to persuade her to be with you no matter how difficult it
comes to reality, you will simply not do so because you know timing is very
important for a real relationship. you do not want her to be unhappy, you do
not want her to make the difficult decisions, experience the unexpected, sort
out problems she has never had before just to be with you.
you simply take the initiative to do what
she wants you to do and this may include ask her not to call you again, tell
her at the moment you only want to concentrate on study, tell her you do not
want her to suffer and you say you will just be fine etc etc... however these
are probably all lies...
you do these simply because you know from
your single moment of rational judgement, stopping things go worse is the best
solution and you will have to suffer a lot and take a really long time to heal.
my own answer to what is true love is that
love is sacrifice.
two are better off than one, because together they can work effectively. if one of them falls down, the other can help him up. two people can resist an attack that would defect one person alone. a rope made of three cords is hard to break.
Many years ago, one day I was suddenly interested in reading books apart from academic ones from school. I used to be rather illiterate as I was not quite interested in reading books. However l realized that there had been no great teacher around me like Morrie for Mitch in Tuesdays with morrie. If I had to solve my problems I would need to learn from books.
Who moved my cheese was one of the books in my reading list many years ago. Few weeks ago l had read it again and I learnt one very important thing. To me the word ‘ change’ is always a bad idea to me. The more I understand myself, the clearer I realize that I am the type of person that likes change but I would hold back when I start changing. I presume I rather want things to stay the same and when other people say change is a bad idea, I would probably say the same.
During this last summer holiday ever for me, I have realized it is time for me to leave my old cheese station and find new cheese. By that I mean Hong Kong is probably not the place I should be in the future. I am always obsessed with the idea that I can never get involved into the English culture. I always hope that when l leave UK eventually everything will be better. My idea is totally wrong. The world is changing all the time. The people, the environment even my family have all changed now.
From the five people you meet in heaven, Mitch said war likes a magnet, it can bond men together but at the same time it can repel each other. I think relationship and environment like magnets too, they can also bond each other but sooner or later they can also repel each other because people are also changing all the time. I have learnt ‘detachment’is very essential in our life. Sometimes we need to detach from our desire and control our own will.
It is time for me to find new cheese, it is time for me to start enjoying my life in UK, maybe I would realize it is not that bad as I used to think, it is time for me to detach from my past physically and emotionally.
From Philip Yancey 's soul survivor : the true measure of our worth will depend not on a curriculum vitae or the inheritance we leave, but on the spirit we pass on to others.
Whoever finds his life will lose it and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.
happy are they who bear their share of the world's pain in the long run they will know more happiness than those who avoid it
